5 Essential Tips For Writing A Memoir

5 Essential Tips For Writing A Memoir


In this post, we share five essential tips for writing a memoir.

Everybody has a story to tell. This is true. What is not true is that every story deserves to be published.

Many people think they have a story that is unique, or one that has never been told before, or one that is so shocking / amazing / sensational that a publisher will not only buy it, but also offer to write and edit it for them.

This is not going to happen. Even if you are famous. It is not necessarily true that celebrity equals book sales. Most readers of books are not interested in a book ‘written’ by a Kardashian or a Snooki (Read this interesting post from Writers Digest about actors turned authors and their actual book sales.)

Many wanna-be writers think they just have to get it down and send it to someone, and magic happens. Or they believe it is who you know that gets you published. This means they don’t work on the writing. They work on trying to get published instead.

But, if you are serious about telling your story, and if you believe you have a story worth telling, how do you make sure your story has a chance in a competitive marketplace?

Five Essential Tips For Writing A Memoir

  1. Have you done your homework? You should already be writing every day. An athlete or a musician or a chef needs to practise every day if they want to become good in their chosen fields. A writer is no different. Do your apprenticeship. Start a blog, keep a journal, and write for 30 minutes every day. Become comfortable with the writing process. Journal about everything you would eventually like to include in your memoir.
  2. Can you be honest? Readers pick up on writers who are trying to whitewash their memoirs, or present themselves as a tragic character. Readers want to know your truth – not the sugar-coated version of your story. Even if you were abused daily for 15 years, or you’ve been widowed four times, or you were kidnapped, you have to show yourself as a flawed, real person.
  3. What is different about your story? How are you going to get the attention of agents, publishers, and readers? Your memoir should offer readers a new insight. There are no new stories and many people have been through versions of your story. You have to find a way to make your journey memorable. This is where the art of showing and using all five senses in your writing comes in. If you can show and not tell, you are more likely to get this right.
  4. Going beyond survival. Great memoirs are never about the main character surviving. Most people survive. They are about what the main character does after surviving. Readers love to be filled with hope. They love to read about characters who triumph against the odds, even in small ways. If you get this right you will appeal to a large audience. Even if your book is about surviving grief, it should appeal to someone who has never experienced what you have gone through.
  5. You need to know how to tell a story. Good writers know what to leave out of their memoirs. Most people who want to write memoirs include everything and this doesn’t work. Good writers know that the only scenes that have a place in a memoir are the ones that tell your story and stick to the theme of the memoir. Go on a writing course, research what makes a book readable, and read a lot of books. A great writing course will show you how to do this.

Writing a memoir is a beautiful, frustrating, exhilarating, time-consuming, life-changing, often painful, and always rewarding, experience. Good luck and happy writing.

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If you enjoyed this post, read:

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  3. The Daily Word Counts of 39 Famous Authors
  4. The 5 Top Tips For Turning Memories Into A Book
  5. Mary Karr’s Memoir Checklist
  6. 127 Writing Prompts To Finish Before You Write About Yourself

This article has 8 comments

  1. Sarah Campbell

    There is a difference between keeping a journal and writing a memoir and most of us don’t understand this. Thank you for this advice.

  2. Rachael

    Thanks for this great and timely post!

  3. Jenny methven

    Valuable reading.

  4. JennyMethven

    Great advice extremely valuable.

  5. Deanna

    Thanks for sharing terrific tips!

  6. Bobby Leigh

    Perfect timing. I am about to start my 2nd book “Memoirs of a Tour Manager.”a backstage look at rock-n-roll stories.

  7. gavin lawrie

    I want to write a book about being in business with a sociopathic sister in law, and how I survived.

  8. Mandy Eve-Barnett

    I co-wrote this useful guidebook to assist with starting to gather items for your memoir. http://www.dreamwritepublishing.ca/retail/books/your-lifetime-stories

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