Why Finding A Publisher Is A Lot Like Having A Crush

Why Finding A Publisher Is A Lot Like Having A Crush


Submitting my manuscript is a lot like this. Sweating, terror and risk all included. You spend months watching them, learning their likes, their dislikes, their routines. Stalking is a very strong word, but you get the idea. You make sure you look your best. Breath fresh, lip shaved before you take the plunge.

You do the same to your manuscript. You make it perfect. You write it and then you rewrite it. You groom it. Then you risk all. You bare your soul to your crush. The big difference, of course between confessing to your crush and submitting to your publisher, is your crush can kill your dreams in an instant. The publisher takes three months before they hand your heart back to you on a silver platter.

But the time has come; my self-imposed deadline has been reached. I must once again push away from the lockers and walk up to a crush and confess my love. And I am absolutely terrified.

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 by Mia Botha

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  1. Josh Fredette

    Best of wishes to you, Mia! Sometimes I lay awake at night, shivering in terror at the thought of sending in a manuscript. I hope your heart, when revealed on that silver platter, is not cut, smashed, or completely brutalized.

  2. Meryl Fawn

    I’m so glad that you shared this. I recently submitted to several literary agents. Right after I hit send, my stomache started aching–accompanied by great anxiety. I’m happy to know that this is normal!

  3. Sarah Campbell

    Excellent post. It’s so true.

  4. Charlayne

    I got grilled this weekend by a “friend” who was aghast that I totally bypassed the agent/publisher dance and went out on my own independently. She kept asking me why I would want to do that and how I had “screwed up my entire writing career” by doing it that way.

    I have seen my friends who are authors get thrown against that “crush” wall over and over. Several other writers talked me into going Independent and retaining control. Does it mean more work? Yep. Lots more. But, I have control of my cover, my content (and the responsibility to get the writing betaed and edited) and the distribution. I get to do the marketing, but many of the “big name houses” also are making the authors do more and more self-marketing. And, I can do the marketing where I want and if I want to drop the price for a certain event or period of time, it’s coming out of my pocket so no one cares.

    I could wallpaper my wall with rejection slips/emails or I could step up, step out, and be working on the rest of the series as things were being handled.

    I don’t miss it at all. No regrets.

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